For The Hard Women

I am not afraid of your hardness. I know it grew out of necessity, just like mine did. I know it keeps you safe and in control, and that's okay. I see the part of you that is soft and open and wants to have the conversation, the one where you're heard and seen and … Continue reading For The Hard Women

Welcoming Grief

This time of year always sends me back to the Land of Loss to unpack my deepest grief, lest I forget. Every year from Thanksgiving through the winter solstice I honor my own loss, my own heart, my own way to collapse and to rise. I ask my grief how it is and what it … Continue reading Welcoming Grief

Let It All Fall Apart

Save your strength for those who need you to be strong but how tender can you be with your own heart how patient can you be with your own growth how kind can you be to your weak parts Hold it together when others are collapsing but once in a while let it all fall … Continue reading Let It All Fall Apart

What I Remember

It's the love I remember. From the stranger or the soulmate, the smallest act of kindness; each one saying, I love you. I remember the shaming and the pain too, but the love gives them room to be seen, room to breathe. That's how I know it's the way forward and backward and in and … Continue reading What I Remember

The 4 Gratitudes

I am so grateful he comes home every night and sleeps in my bed and loves our child and holds us together heartsoulandskin I am so grateful he is my teacher those little eyes so wise and clear reminding me of what matters and what doesn’t sharing giggles and tears and teaching me patience every … Continue reading The 4 Gratitudes

Shamelessly

There was a time when the sun and the moon were my only constants. I could see both out my window and, although I didn’t know it at the time, they were serving as my nonjudgemental friends, as the witness to an inner life that I shared with almost no one. They rose with me, … Continue reading Shamelessly

Soul Work

To get right to the point, Why are you here? Let’s put our learned answers aside for a moment because I’m interested in your answer, not something you learned from a doctrine or a book or an authority figure. And I’m not even that interested in your answer. I’m interested in your asking the question … Continue reading Soul Work

What I Learned in 2014

I learned that love is like cotton candy. It stretches with you, it sticks to you, it's messy and delicious and makes life more fun. I learned to tread softer on my heart and in my life. I learned the cleanest line can be found not only on a wave or on a rock but in life … Continue reading What I Learned in 2014

The Art of Decompressing

To quote yoga teacher Darren Rhodes: “You’ve got to be able to handle compression.” He likens this concept to the air inside a tire. There’s a lot of compression in that tire, but because of the way it handles it, it isn’t crushed. It can roll with it, if you will. I’m in the midst … Continue reading The Art of Decompressing

Hearts of Stone

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day, she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did … Continue reading Hearts of Stone