The Face of Grief

Grief walked by me today. It was wearing all white, each pair of eyes holding pain the way only humans can. The fifty or so humans walking by me wore white shirts that held a picture and a name. Everyone looked up as they passed. At their number, at their unity, at the name they … Continue reading The Face of Grief

Welcoming Grief

This time of year always sends me back to the Land of Loss to unpack my deepest grief, lest I forget. Every year from Thanksgiving through the winter solstice I honor my own loss, my own heart, my own way to collapse and to rise. I ask my grief how it is and what it … Continue reading Welcoming Grief

The Million-Dollar Question About Grief

How do we give back to grief when it shattered life as we knew it? The concept of survivors giving back is common in many support systems and organizations. Those that have found a way through to the other side return to support and encourage those still struggling. Thankfully there are many individuals and organizations … Continue reading The Million-Dollar Question About Grief

The Language of Grief

Death is so inarticulate. Grief, however, speaks to our hearts and from our hearts. Grief can sing and grief can sign. Grief can write poetry and grief can tell stories. Grief can speak from loudspeakers and from tiny mouths. Grief can say I love you and grief can ask for help. Grief is fluent in … Continue reading The Language of Grief

Where We Begin (When It All Ends)

When it all implodes, explodes, hits the fan, comes to Jesus, goes to hell, unravels, derails, blindsides us, sideswipes us, bowls us over or pulls us under the breath is still there starting with the pause after the exhale that moment where we decide to keep breathing to keep living it invites us to sit … Continue reading Where We Begin (When It All Ends)

If Grief Could Speak (5 Things It Would Say)

If grief could speak it would say, I’m sorry. I’m sorry it’s me that arrived at your doorstep instead of love. But I am made of love too. In fact, it’s because I love so much that I hurt so much when I lose the people I love. If grief could speak it would say, … Continue reading If Grief Could Speak (5 Things It Would Say)

So This is How We Say Goodbye

So this is how we say goodbye to the people we love to the people we've been to the roles we've played to the lives we've lived Stepping onto the stage of our life, knowing that sometimes sometimes we get to say a proper goodbye with applause and an encore and a bow Sometimes no … Continue reading So This is How We Say Goodbye

Once Upon a Time

Once upon a time when I was very sad and very alone I would walk a certain stretch of beach for miles and dream of the woman I would like to be and say to myself, over and over: That woman is worth waiting to meet. I did that for years. It kept me alive. … Continue reading Once Upon a Time

Being Human

I wonder how we can dignify this human experience our birth days and our funerals our love stories and our tragedies our collapses and our relapses our wounds, scars and beauty I don’t have the answer, but I have this embrace I offer you each time we meet I have this heart that beats and … Continue reading Being Human