For The Hard Women

I am not afraid of your hardness. I know it grew out of necessity, just like mine did. I know it keeps you safe and in control, and that's okay. I see the part of you that is soft and open and wants to have the conversation, the one where you're heard and seen and … Continue reading For The Hard Women

What I Remember

It's the love I remember. From the stranger or the soulmate, the smallest act of kindness; each one saying, I love you. I remember the shaming and the pain too, but the love gives them room to be seen, room to breathe. That's how I know it's the way forward and backward and in and … Continue reading What I Remember

I Believe in The Human Heart

What do we do when we see it coming at us too fast to escape, too strong to fight against? Death, illness, trauma or tragedy. Those things that bring us to our knees in prayer or in weakness, but leveled, hurting, imploding. Human. When we can’t hide the wail behind our walls of sanity, when … Continue reading I Believe in The Human Heart

The 4 Gratitudes

I am so grateful he comes home every night and sleeps in my bed and loves our child and holds us together heartsoulandskin I am so grateful he is my teacher those little eyes so wise and clear reminding me of what matters and what doesn’t sharing giggles and tears and teaching me patience every … Continue reading The 4 Gratitudes

Soul Work

To get right to the point, Why are you here? Let’s put our learned answers aside for a moment because I’m interested in your answer, not something you learned from a doctrine or a book or an authority figure. And I’m not even that interested in your answer. I’m interested in your asking the question … Continue reading Soul Work

What I Know About An Open Heart

My uncle had open-heart surgery last week. In my good-sized extended family our reunions tend to take place at hospitals instead of at holidays. It’s an interesting dynamic trying to stretch my heart open wide enough to hold both the joy at seeing my family and the sadness or stress because of why we’re at the hospital. … Continue reading What I Know About An Open Heart

The Art of Decompressing

To quote yoga teacher Darren Rhodes: “You’ve got to be able to handle compression.” He likens this concept to the air inside a tire. There’s a lot of compression in that tire, but because of the way it handles it, it isn’t crushed. It can roll with it, if you will. I’m in the midst … Continue reading The Art of Decompressing

Wild Things

It takes a brave soul to love a wild thing. A wild animal, a wild heart, a wild spirit... they all require the same courage. I didn’t start out brave, but I’m ending up brave because loving a wild thing cracks your heart open one day at a time, not all at once. I didn’t … Continue reading Wild Things