What I Remember

It's the love I remember. From the stranger or the soulmate, the smallest act of kindness; each one saying, I love you. I remember the shaming and the pain too, but the love gives them room to be seen, room to breathe. That's how I know it's the way forward and backward and in and … Continue reading What I Remember

“Grief Brut” : Raw Grief

There is a kind of art called Art Brut, literally “raw art.” It describes art that defies the rules of traditional or popular culture. Art that is not tidy and acceptable but raw and wild. Often referred to as “Outsider Art,” it’s expression that has not been edited or sanitized or applauded but has found … Continue reading “Grief Brut” : Raw Grief

When I’m Gone Please Don’t Have a Funeral

When my husband passed away 13 years ago we hadn’t talked about what kind of funeral he wanted. At 25, I was too afraid to have the conversation. When my 98-year-old great-grandmother passed last month on the hunter’s full moon, I finally found the courage to consider what I would hope for upon my passing. … Continue reading When I’m Gone Please Don’t Have a Funeral

My Life Mala

We all wear our stories in some way or another, don’t we? They make us who we are (and sometimes keep us from becoming who we can be if we let them define us too narrowly.) I started making what I call “Life Malas” because each marker is placed for a life event. I used … Continue reading My Life Mala

Restoring the BodyMind Through Yoga

Early on in my yoga practice I would often experience an emotional reaction during corpse pose (savasana). Lying still, I would get a lump in my throat and suddenly find tears quietly rolling down my cheeks. I didn’t know it at the time, but my yoga practice was releasing long-held grief from my body. When … Continue reading Restoring the BodyMind Through Yoga

We are the Lucky Ones

I was really crushed when I heard about the Malaysia Airlines tragedy. For a moment. Then I was really angry. I was angry about a lot of things, but mostly because I could feel the loss in my own heart. It was almost as if I was holding those broken hearts in my hands, and … Continue reading We are the Lucky Ones

Death & Breath

A friend of mine died this week. She was 41 years old and left behind two small boys and a husband. Some months ago I invited her to come with me to a Yoga for Cancer workshop. She had advanced stage cancer and I was pregnant. Our seemingly opposite points in life didn't seem so … Continue reading Death & Breath

Good Grief

I'm very interested in grief, loss, and how we approach these topics on an individual and societal level. It's a subject that fascinates me largely because of a life path that has given me a magnified, intimate look at death, depression, and suicide. Our culture and society aren't too big on death. It's one of … Continue reading Good Grief

Answer Your Fear With This Question

Have you had a life-or-death experience? Has someone close to you died? Do you shy away from the topic of death because it's uncomfortable? Those were questions I never contemplated for most of my life. Nowadays I embrace the conversation because I've realized that contemplating death can inform our lives powerfully. I was given an … Continue reading Answer Your Fear With This Question